Is there anyone who still believe in fairy tales like “and they lived happily ever after” or in “to be trully loved and to love whoever you wish”? I do believe now that this stories are for kids and for those people who live in a dreamy world, unfortunately, is a bogus world from this point of view, and if is not the same for you, cherish with all of your soul what you have…
Totul a inceput dintr-o simpla intamplare…nu si-ar fi inchipuit ca vor ajunge sa fie vreodata impreuna…Dar s-a intamplat…
Se cunosteau de cativa ani,fara sa fie intre ei ceva mai mult decat amicitie..Poate ca a durat destul de mult pana ca ei sa-si dea seama ca se iubesc…
Din ziua in care s-au hotarat sa fie impreuna…nu a mai existat zi sa nu se vada…
Era asa de frumos…armonie…dragoste…credeau ca nimeni si nimic nu le-ar putea strica fericirea..pacat ca exista lumea rea si invidioasa…
Multe intrigi..vorbe de tot felul..rautati…ii faceau sa se certe din ce in ce mai des…
Din focul ce ardea in sufletele lor…incet incet la fiecare cearta ramanea o urma de cenusa…
Zilele…parca treceau mai greu…se vedeau din ce in ce mai rar…certurile continuau…in schimb dragostea ramasese la fel..
Ea ar fi facut orice pentru a inceta aceasta pasa proasta a relatiei…si s-a hotarat…sa vorbeasca cu el..
-Iubitule…ce va mai ramane din dragostea noastra daca la fiecare pas exista o scanteie?Te rog spune-mi ca inca ma iubesti si niciodata nu o sa pleci de langa mine orice s-ar intampla…
Cu fiecare vorba el o ranea mai mult…simtea ca nu o mai iubeste ca la inceput…ceva se intamplase..si atunci ea a hotarat sa puna capat relatiei…i-a trimis un mesaj..scris printre lacrimi..
“Cu sufletul ranit…inima sfasiata…lumea se naruie peste mine…nu pot sa inteleg cum s-a ajuns pana aici..ne iubeam atat de mult…de la ce a pornit totul?Mai bine punem capat aici decat sa mai suferim in continuare…Te iubesc si nu o sa te pot uita niciodata…si daca voi fi nevoita sa mor…voi lua cu mine in mormant dragostea ce ti-o port…Si daca intr-o zi vei vrea sa-ti amintesti de mine,cauta-ma.ADIO!
Dupa acest mesaj dureros…astepta un raspuns din partea lui…oricare ar fi fost…
Se facuse deja 3 dimineata…nu primise nici un raspuns…isi pune capul pe perna si incearca sa doarma…
De dimineata se trezeste si se uita direct la telefon…insa nu avea nici un raspuns..totul ii parea confuz…de fapt el oare chiar asta vroia?
Zilele treceau…ea nu mai manca nu mai vorbea cu nimeni….
In una din zile…a vrut sa iasa…in parcul unde se vedeau ei zi de zi in speranta ca poate il va intalni…
Asa a si fost…el statea pe banca lor…s-a dus spre el..l-a stans in brate…l-a sarutat…dar el vazandu-si prietenii…a impins-o si a plecat cu ei. Ea a ramas pe jos si plangand si-a jurat ca n-o sa-l mai caute niciodata…
Pe drum…trece pe langa un lac…unde si-au jurat iubire prima data…statea pe pod…plangea isi amintea tot ce-a fost frumos..a aruncat simbolul dragostei lor…verigheta,apoi…simtind din nou indiferenta lui…si-a dat seama ca viata fara el nu mai are rost…si s-a aruncat in gol de pe pod…luandu-si viata….
Poate intamplarea a facut ca el sa fie in apropiere si sa o vada…a sarit dupa ea…dar nu a mai gasit-o…lacul era foarte adanc…
A iesit a fugit dupa ajutor…dar a fost in zadar…cand au scos-o era deja moarta…
Era trista…a luat-o in brate…a urlat spre cer “Te iubesc!!!!!!!!!!De ce ai facut asta??”
S-a facut seara…ea statea in sicriu…imbracata intr-o rochie de mireasa superba…el era imbracat in ginere… statea aplecat peste sicriul fetei sarutand-o pe frunte si soptindu-i la ureche…cat de mult o iubeste si cat de rau ii pare ca a ascultat de prietenii lui…
“Doamne!!!Ce-a fost in capul meu…de ce nu mi-am ascultat inima iubito..? De ce a trebuit sa ascult de altii.??De ce Doamne…a trebuit sa se intample o tragedie ca sa-mi dau seama de ce am pierdut…?Era tot ce aveam mai drag pe lume…era sufletul meu bucuria mea!!!Ce e viata mea fara tine?….NIMIC…”
La inmormantare…cel mai greu moment…toata lumea plangea…totul era o drama…el era…pierdut..absent…nu vorbea…nu facea nici un gest…decat plangea si se uita in gol…
Toti…au plecat el a cerut sa mai ramana un pic acolo langa mormant…A scris pe copacul de langa mormant “Vom fi din nou impreuna…te iubesc…”Atunci a scos un cutit…si si l-a infipt drept in inima…sangele curgea siroaie…Ultimele sale cuvinte fiind…”N-am stiut sa te pretuiesc cand te-am avut langa mine”
O alta drama moartea baiatului…la doar o zi dupa inmormantarea fetei…
Familia baiatului au cerut insistent ca el sa fie inmormantat langa ea…,Asa a si fost…
Dupa 1 an…cele doua familii se intalnesc pentru a face parastasul celor doi…
Vorbele erau de prisos…dar un singur sfat au dat…
“Incercati sa apreciati pe cineva cand il aveti alaturi…caci dupa aceea este aproape imposibil…sa mai recuperati fiinta iubita…chiar si dupa moarte”
i’m sitting on this chair that makes me unconfortable and is not because of it, but because of my mind who is already flying before me getting on board on the road to Athens. “don’t worry”, i am telling my self. “i’ll be back later on”. but what should i do till then all alone?
there are 15 more minutes till check in and i feel like i haven’t took everything with me, like i left the most important thing back home. i don’t know why, maybe is because of the distance who is telling me that i will feel more alone with each meter as I distanced from my happiness.
who knows, maybe i am afraid that i will be gone one day for good, and that day is near..too near and then i can not do anything else for my happiness because it will be late, so why i am not acting now on getting it back what makes me happy? my feelings are telling me that the gods are with me, but my mind is telling me to letting go. now i am asking you, what should i do? my mind is acting logical and my feelings are acting on what my heart feels, who is right and who is wrong, or it does not matter, and i should do what my instinct is telling me? then i should pick up the phone but wait, actually i should get up from this chair and go faster then the speed of light straight to take back my happiness because i now know that i left her without telling her what i really feel, i though i already did but i’m sure i haven’t did it in the right way at the right time. i know she wants me to talk with her or maybe is just me…
my mind is acting like this because someone told it what to do and what not to, but my instinct is what i feel or maybe my instinct means the informations that help me understand and act in vary situations fast.
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damn the sun is so lighting and heating like we are in a summer morning, but from what i see, the sun light can’t pass thru the intens clouds, otherwise it was ssssumer time. we should think at something to do with this clouds. a rocket or something to spread them away.
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now i remember how is to desire to return home..maybe just because is the place called home, don’ no… my flight is on the schedule, but i hope it wont be any delays like in the morning, because it was the same as now when i was waiting for boarding, and when i arrived i were 30 minutes delayed…
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so, i guess i had no delayed back to bucharest, actually i recovered 5 minutes 
but this doesn’t make me forget about the 12 people that were late and the flight had a lil delay in departing but the pilot must knew a short route by coming earlier and recovered the time lost.
anyway my mind fast moved away to smiling because the flight attendant had no time on showing her ‘show’ on surviving – about this, she asked me to stay next to the emergency door in case of something was going to go wrong. i was like ‘say what? are you expecting anything to happen or you are part of who know what sort of free willy organisation? – let’s get back on the survivor guide. as we were preparing for taking off. of course the plane was taking speed and the flight attendant also because she didn’t had time to do it looking at her i was kinda sorry for her because she seems to be a rookie and she was giving her best.
anyway, soon as i landed i forgot about her because of the pilot who took his license on playstation, but i did not forget about the blonde who was again and again looking quietly to see where i am.. blah blah blah.
someone told me “i luv’ you” i didn’t know what to tell her back, maybe because i though i do not feel the same but something inside me knew i was wrong not telling her, and by replying her with the same words i realise more and more my feelings where deep for her but i was to afraid of not being hurt, and now i know that, that someone she was actually a special one…
sad no, how some unimportant words at a point for us, become everything for someone else?
we all know it but what we do?..nothing! absolutly nothing because the ego is stronger..we making it stronger and stronger by not expressing what we feel and doing what we think, but who i am to tell you that you are wrong.
let’s put it like that:
red + yellow = orange;
yellow + blue = green;
red + blue = purple;
what does it means? peter + amelie = something special;
amelie + andrew = a both needs;
peter + alexandra = something different..like wtf? i guess you got the point now.
there is a word “having informations is like having already won half of the battle”, yes is half true, but that information can be also use against you by you. as i said above in the example, two person being in the same situation can result in a different way because we are so different and in the same time we are the same, if we realise at the perfect time, at the perfect moment with the right person.
the conclusion: do whatever you feel, not what you think you know is right, because someone teached you what is right..right for someone else my friend 
la ce te duce gandul cand citesti aceste randuri? pe mine ma duce departe unde nici macar eu nu-mi gasesc raspunsuri.
azi as putea spune ca este cea mai trista zi, n-am sa va spun motivul, dar acelora dintre voi care ma cunosc destul de bine, le va fi usor sa-si dea seama.
ma uitam ieri la el si la ea, cum odata erau atat de indragostiti unul de celalalt, iar astazi, astazi parca le e greu sa mai schimbe doua vorbe, parca le e greu sa-si mai gaseasca cuvintele, de teama sa nu zica ceva care sa-l raneasca pe celalalt.
amandoi se uitau unul la celalalt cu amaraciune, cu tristete in ochi, si amandoi simteau cum celalalt are pulsul ridicat din cauza emotiilor ce i-au cuprins, dar nici unul nu intelege de ce, asa cum nici el nu intelege de ce ea tremura de emotii in preajma lui si cu toate astea il tine departe, poate din cauza faptului ca nu vrea sa-l mai raneasca, poate ea crede ca nu il mai poate iubi sau poate pur si simplu crede ca amandoi au incercat suficient si ca nu mai are rost, dar in adanc amandoi stiu ca sentimentele pe care le simt, sunt de fapt dragostea unuia fata de celalalt, iar el mai stie ca ei ii va fi usor sa-l uite dupa ce acesta se ideparteaza in zare, pentru ca ea are pe altcineva…
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In linistea mea
Ma intreb de-as putea
Sa te simt aproape din nou
Imi revin amintiri,ganduri ce vor veni
Sa-mi aduca-n sufletul gol
Imi lipseste curajul de-a-ti spune ce simt
Nimic nu s-a schimbat
Sentimente pierdute le-am reintalnit
De acum eu le-am aflat
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There’s something in a simple hug
That always warms the heart;
It welcomes us back home
And makes it easier to part.
A hug is a way to share the joy
And sad times we go through,
Or just a way for friends to say
They like you ’cause you’re you.
Hugs are meant for anyone
For whom we really care,
From your grandma to your neighbor,
Or a cuddly teddy bear.
A hug is an amazing thing –
It’s just the perfect way
To show the love we’re feeling
But can’t find the words to say.
It’s funny how a little hug
Makes everyone feel good;
In every place and language,
It’s always understood.
And hugs don’t need new equipment,
Special batteries or parts -
Just open up your arms
And open up your hearts.
Lucrurile pot fi atat de simple in viata, dar noua oamenilor ne place sa ne complicam viata…
Ne intrebam cateodata ‘ce as putea sa-i zic?’ ‘dar cu ce as putea incepe?’..un simplu ‘buna’ e suficient, stiai asta?…
Suntem mult prea orgoliosi, mult prea mandri sa lasam garda jos, de aceea instinctul ne indeamna sa avem acea atitudine care, pentru cel de langa tine, acest fapt il indeparteaza, dupa care ajungem sa ne intrebam ‘dar ce am facut?’
De ce trebuie sa ne deranjeze cand cineva nu gandeste ca noi, cand cineva are un alt punct de vedere, cand cineva nu face cum ne-ar placea noua sa faca?…
Cu alte cuvinte, de ce vrem pe cineva care sa fie ca noi? Nu ne placem atat de mult incat sa fie suficient ceea ce noi suntem sau ne place atat de mult de noi incat vrem ca toti sa fie ca noi, sa gandeasca ca noi, sa faca aceleasi lucruri ca noi?… Atunci, de ce mai purtam aceasta conversatie?… Think! E atat de simplu… Sau pentru unii mai bine ar fi sa nu mai gandeasca si sa faca ceea ce simt, sa accepte ceea ce fiecare primeste asa cum e in stare pura.
Trebuie sa acceptam odata pentru totdeauna ca nu putem fi placuti de toti si ca nu suntem noi cei mai buni in toate..si oricum, ce conteaza cine e mai bun decat cine si daca suntem sau nu acceptati de toti?
Poate, daca am lasa deoparte orgoliul, mandria, am constata ca ne-ar fi mai usor..am fi mai usor acceptati asa cum suntem, am vedea mai multe zambete in jurul nostru, am avea mai multe cunostinte care ne-ar vrea alaturi; familia ar fi una ideala; partenerul de viata ne-ar iubi tot mai mult cu cat timpul va trece mai mult impreuna; ne-ar fi mai usor la serviciu, ne-am face treaba mai usor, ne-am lasa ajutati, constienti fiind ca si altii ne pot da o mana de ajutor chiar si cu un zambet care ne-ar putea calauzi pe intreaga zi… Dar daca noi nu ne daruim intru-totul, daca continuam sa neglijam, sa aducem reprosuri, sa atragem atentia, sa-i spunem altuia ce sa faca si cum ar fi mai bine sa faca..cum sa ne fie mai bine, cum sa nu ajunegm intr-un punct in care sa vrem sa disparem pentru totdeauna?…
Robbie williams, a incercat de curand sa se sinucida luand 25 de pastile, norocul lui a fost un apropiat care a intervenit la timp… Ca multi altii, a ajuns la concluzia ca nu banii, faima, numarul de cunostinte ii pot aduce fericirea.. Ci acceptandu-i pe ceilalti asa cum sunt.
Cand vom ajunge sa intelegem ca nevoile noastre si felul nostru de a privi lucrurile nu sunt dintre cele mai bune pentru oricine, si ca oamenii au nevoi diferite si ca doi oameni pusi intr-o situatie de aceeasi natura, pot reactiona diferit.
Oamenii simt diferit in functie de nevoi, si ca trebuie sa-i lasam pe oameni sa decida singuri si sa nu ne impunem punctul de vedere daca nu ni se cere astfel, si sa nu ne contrazicem sau impunem decat atunci cand cineva ar putea fi ranit.. De abia atunci vom incepe sa zambim cu adevarat tot mai des…
Concluzia: Te vei relaxa cand vei intelege ca acceptarea este calea.
Viata este atat de complexa si subtila, incat nu se poate sa decizi atat de usor ca tu ai dreptate si altcineva greseste. De fapt, cine are un pic de intelegere va sti asta.
by PNM
www.saiyo.wordpress.com
—first i’ll be writing thoughts and then i’ll put them where belongs—
Thoughts
very important is to be honest. can we be when we talk about what we really want and expect from our partner of life, or we lie just not to look bad in front of someone else, or we lie because that someone it could not have the same opinion as we do?…
i wont start now telling you what is normal and how you should be like, in the end you’ll find out that only you can decide what to do and what not to, and what’s normal or not, and that is better if you wont judge someone, because is easy to talk about when we lying outside…
let’s talk about now franc about what girls trully wants from guys.
I wont put the list of needs in order of priorities, i’ll let you decide what is most important for you.
To respect her and to appreciate her the way she is like. And here, we have different meanings of this two strong words. One meaning is: respect for some girls it could be that he pays when they go out, appreciation it could mean that he buys her things from time to time.
When someone is pricing you for your qualities, this also could means appreciation for other girls.
Thoughts
Mature love requires flexible borders and healthy. Sympathy and compassion are valuable qualities, but not to be confused with love. In a relationship, healthy boundaries is based on mutual respect, equality, appreciation and qualities of the other …. these guiding the flow of feelings between partners. These are faces of love couples, but when one partner has control and the other is dependent and helpless, there is no room for “give and receive …
Thoughts
Let’s face it rarely someone really respect. Rarely is anyone even respected. Hmmmm?!
Thoughts
When we breakup, we’ll trying find out who did wrong, where were the problems, what were the possible solutions, why didn’t we try to put them in action, did we try everything before we said stop!… and after other days, you’ll gonna wonder if every touch, every word, if everything it did to us was real or it was only a good actor…
Why we keep hurting, why we keep hurting ourself, isn’t it better to accept that you can’t always have right, that you can’t always win..but why is important in a relashionship who is winning, or better said..if there is a winner..perhaps you should both consider a winner having a dear one next to you…
Open your mind, your arms, your heart, your soul and take the other one the way it is like!… then be sure you’ll be happy when you find yourself doing that…
Thoughts
quote of the story: why does it matter what others will say and not just be yourself and accept what and who you are? First of all be chill with yourself, if you want others to be the same with you…
THE FORMS OF EXPRESSIONS LOVE ARE:
Epithumia – sexual love, desire physically strong;
Eros – romantic love / merged / the fusion / possession of all the other (physical, mental, spiritual), passionate love (triri of orgasm mentally);
Storgata – love that connects natural affection and sense of mutual belonging, mutual loyalty, made the group a sense of security among parents / children, brothers / sisters, spouse;
Fileo – shared friendship, reciprocity, the partners share their time and interests;
Agape – unselfish love, offers but waits instead, full of compassion, love, model Christie, beyond emotions and passionate feelings, are deeply spiritual. This requires a transformation of self that gives you the strength to continue even if other types of love fails.
TYPES OF LOVERS
1. The erotical (eroticul) – is searching for a romantic ideal partner believing that there is only one true for him. Identify strongly partner, wanting to know everything about him. He will always remember your preferences and nepreferintele, birthday and anniversary
partner’s wishes and intentions. Sexual involvement is usually early. Once entered the relationship is – usually – monogamous, true, though it may employ, sometimes in an extramarital relationship or extraparteneriala, that has a capacity always fresh, the a sustained fall in love with curiosity and enthusiasm alive.
2. The player (ludicul) – the kind of partner is unfaithful with floating libido, preferring more relations in parallel. Wishes and demands a certain dependence and responsibility from each partner, which i assure continuity in the attitude and conduct. Generally, it has a good image of itself fed by multiple emotional contact with others, which on the one hand, it secures, on the other hand, it make them feel admired. As this variation likes, without involving too much, he self-revealing superficial and prefer – consequently – as partners superficial ones, although located – generally – dependent emotional obviously have issues self-assessment and privacy. However, the love with this type is considered to be enjoyable, imaginative, at the end of the relationship. This is that has entertaining, art of seduction, is one emotional bounty hunter, whimsical and surprising.
3. The storge one (storgicul) – is a surprisingly emotional partner, which reveals itself gradually, through love. He believes in permanent relationship and treat their partner as irreplaceable friend. These partners are well known and rather disute all together. They secures each other through mutual trust and fidelity manifested freely consented. Sexual relationship starts late, but once started, is very appreciated. And although their relationship must end, they will continue to remain friends.
4. The maniac one (maniacul) – Is a very dependent person emotionally and extremely jealous. The name has a pathological connotation but rather, express, in a profane manner, which in the language common people understand the yarn obsessed lover.
For this reason, he experience love at a high intensity, making it very resistant to physical separation of a partner, without to lower the intensity of feelings. On the contrary, in such cases, it develops restlessness, suspicion, without ceasing to feel attraction. In often has a poor self image, poor and minimal assessment. It is therefore less attractive to others but also very dependent. Suffer from fear of being abandoned and rejected. Even when the relationship ceases, it continues to reflect, problematizeze the errors they committed.
5. The agapic one (agapicul) – is the least possessive and most forgiving of all six types of partners. Extremely patient, extremely easy to keep in the relationship, he accepts, tolerates almost any behavior from the other. Although not fall in love, love always gives his wishes and preferences as the other. Some researchers believe that these guys – in extremis – can be masochistic. However, they are forever supportive for partners, no matter what. When the relationship ends, are willing to allow partener to leave them.
6. The pragmatic one – is a person who shall proceed in love and would look for and use like the most valuable car. He over all assets lover (her), taking care to ensure and legally in control of their possession and trying to ends best deal possible. For this type no attractions and interest represent a person who is not a value material. As long as the relationship will satisfy the interest, they would continue to love. But if your partner will not satisfy material expectations, will feel entitled to look for someone else. In other words, the pragmatic need power and economic prestige, the love is like an instrument , one tool to get, but also an effect as a result of meeting this need.
Quote of the story: We are not pure but mixed types. Style of love can change. In full (complete) love is an balance between passion, intimacy and obligation.
Are you the type of person that shares everything bit of assets with your friends?
Do they have a fit when you don’t share your funds with them? Or do they want to know your every move when you have money?
Well in cases like this, when it comes to money and friendships, those two just don’t mix well at all.
Note; there’s nothing perfect in this world and some people don’t know how to respond and share the love, so they act crazy and want to take over as far as the assets even when you offer them money or like to take advantage of you, but trust to know; when people know that you have money, things are bound to happen and not really in a good way either so in other words, money is the root of all evil and then you have the jealous person that does spiteful things when you have money to either ruin your life just because you have more money than them and not caring about how you feel and what you had to sacrifice to get that money or how much you saved and how long it took you to get it or how hard you worked to succeed into getting your money because they just want to come into your circle and take over what you have or just go the distance to fill your shoes or take your money or even go as far as killing you for it.
With every little situation, there’s always a mentally envisioned unequal equation, people deeply and wishfully wants more for their personal self and it is hard to get a fair division because 50/50 doesn’t exist and when you ask someone to split anything that belongs to the two they are either out for themselves a little more or because of the guilt of the greed that they know what’s inside, might cut you a little more and cut themsleves a little less. So whether you entertain the personal greed or the guilt of it, the vision is 50/50 and you know that there’s always greed with money.
We understand that there’s a driving force and all of our actions, we could break it down in many details or we could admit to ourselves that it’s mind over matter, spiritual over mental and from the bottom to the top.
Let’s admit to ourselves that we’ve been in competitions with everything around us and everyone around us for a long as you had a memory at least the first breath of air we took on this earth.
Now knowing is half the battle now that we admit if we could be more friendly with it, and pay attention to the fact that we have the same incompetitiveness and be careful, someone we should care for anyway and be more of a good sport person and know that every dog has its day and everyone needs their day and truly supports each other around, then the money will just be a useful tool, but until we got our minds right and we are tight, money will never be right, it would be like a disease that makes the world go round, but it sounds like doom to me.
Know that:Money can always be replaced, but great friendships and friends itself could never be reapired if damaged over a money issue or if bridges are burned over that.
Now the way money and friendships do mix is if your friends are making money as well and when they find out that you have money and they, don’t they will either try to get inside your pockets or try to just gain off the top, but a true friend will always try to help you manage your funds.
Now if you don’t know how to seperate money from your friends, you will be in a world of trouble and once money gets involved, ppeople will do anything for it with too much temptation, but you have to know when to seperate the two and don’t mix one with the other.
In other words: Do a strong evaluation!
Were we to define the word ‘friendship’, one of the greatest relationships in the world, we can summarize it in just two words. These words are ‘Supportive Affection’. No relationship would survive if there is absence of affection between or among the persons involved. When affection is qualified with the factor of active ‘support’, there the real friendship emerges.
The factor of supporting a friend could be active in many forms. Friendship would come into action when a friend faces some trouble and is in dire need of support and care.
Friendship is not just an association of persons who come to help their group members. It is good to be an active participant in such a supportive association; but the base of friendship is affection towards a particular person. Due to that affection, the friends feel themselves ‘bound’ in an emotional bondage. A string of intimacy would be there. Higher the level of intimacy, stronger would be a friendship.
A true friendship would defer in many ways from just acquaintance or mere desire to help each other while in need. Main difference is the notion of sympathy and mutual respect. The hearts of friends are like nests of the birds of sympathy for each other. A true friend would also be honest in relationship, as he or she would not hesitate to tell the truth in case of need, even if the truth so told might not be sweet for the ears of the other friend.
In true friendship, a friend would always desire and act for providing the best available things or situations in life of the other friend. Such friendship can be between two men or between two women. But when such a true friendship is built between a man and a woman, it becomes more important for the life of both the friends.
In Life we need three things love, luck and look:
Means wonderful physical look may not be always attached with beauty but piercing eyes can play important role which is again dependent on beauty of mind. Next is luck , as per wise saying no labor then no luck means again luck is dependent on labor and faith in self, time and Supreme Soul . All the anxiety in the human mind arises out of failure of these three factors.
All about Love:
Life is so fast people do not have time to share, care and love. Apathetic and indifferent behavior in close relationship is impediment in loving relationship. Life without love is meaningless; love is one of the greatest needs of life. Above all we need love; love is the binding force among all the relationship in a family or in organisation. If there is a beautiful house, well decorated, well furnished and carrying all the luxurious accessories, can they give happiness, bliss and peace in the absence security and faith in relationship? Here prosperity without love act like a golden jail in absence of faith and understanding in the relationship.
The major threats to loving relationships are :
a- Changing mood is the major threats to sweet relationship.
b- Suspicion act like poison
c- Impatient behavior
d- Obnoxious remarks
e- Castigating, cursing words.
f- Fearful man cannot love
g- Expectation and selfish intention
True love means love to have love for self and struggle to get success in one’s life to make one’s life smooth and sweeter.
2. Love is Universal:
If you want to be worthy of love you need to learn how to love other. A love which beyond the color of the skin and the wealth. Unless until you are having patience you cannot love, impatient soul used to be irritate, disturbed and unrest.
Here love is not just limited to friends or family members; above all we should have love for our country, environment, society, animals. But can we imagine a love where one fell in love with self not on the physical appearance, the emotional attachment the contended life. Most of the time we remain dissatisfied with self, we censure or curse self for our weakness, low intelligence, or appearance. Whatever I may y be I should have love and concern for self and should try hard for self transformation to be worthy of love of God and the universe.
Means we should learn to love beyond case, creed, color, and country of origin, qualification, education and wealth status. Love for whole mankind makes one’s heart broad and inspire one for self immolation for the better and greater cause of whole world.
The things are changing faster we don’t have time to understand each other except diluting our relationship a sif we are heading towards hazards. The swinging mind of youth keeps on fluctuating among different relationship on basis of physical fitness and appearance. After sometime one lost his control over mind and get frustrated. Immoral act causes damage to physical fitness and appearance.
Now a day people have started shifting their love towards animas and pet.
In the name of love youth are running away with from their partners ignoring all the social norms, rules and stigma. Physical love and many often love make one intellectually blind. Emotion with rationality is essential otherwise too much emotion can derail and distract from right path and action..
The only love that can save from distraction, demoralization and derailment is universal love and the love with the Ocean of Love, Universal Father. Mind gets detached and fly with super sensuous joy in soul conscious state and in remembrance of Supreme Soul, showering love affection, to the whole world unconditionally.
It is difficult to love a immoral fluctuating man, but a detached man heart filled with love and faith in God may able to forgive and forget one’s past mistake to love.
Love makes one intoxicated ,love makes one single minded. A few rare honest lover were there rest are fluctuating better to love, cooperate, support with care but without much expectation.
3. Balancing Law and Love:
The parents and guardian need to love keeping balance of law of punishment to correct their child. Similarly for teacher or authorities in an organization should maintain balance between love and law.
Love is equally disturbing, may be fluctuating. Those who gets affected by physical appearance may not be faithful to a partner. Because there may be some one more attractive in physical appearance, intelligence or wealth , so mind will keep on fluctuating but the God is ultimatum no one can be wealthier, healthier, intelligent or beautiful than God , even He is incorporeal and a Divine entity star like structure, He lis the most loveliest. Love with God made our mind constant and enjoying. He is most loyal and faithful, who will not betray till end of our life.
In this selfish world there is acute scarcity of true love. People are losing their faith in relationships, the world has turned into a difficult place to lead and live the life. Suspicions, doubt, criticism, jealousy and hatred has taken over the position of faith, belief and unselfish love.
4. Love is Far from Lust:
Love is far from lust, the love is pure, unconditional and forever. People are thinking intimacy and love in term of lust or sex. Intimacy in term of physical intimacy is harmful which cannot be possible with all and many often those who entered into physical intimacy made their life puzzled and critical. One should be firm and clean in his character to be fearless and carefree to love beyond hedonism or physical pleasure. The emotional intimacy the psychological understanding of each other, understanding the embedded need in one’s life is the foundation of love. There may be deformation in physical appearance still one can keep on loving, as one has understood the true being the emotional part the consciousness of the lover. Loving someone for physical beauty is not the true essence and sense of love,which may fade away with age and dereliction in physical appearance.
Love which is beyond the material or marsupial pleasure is true love. Love where there is a sense of belongingness, care, sacrifice and good wishes for all.
In many cases today, people I relationships may find the need to look for telltale signs spouse is cheating. More often than not, such signs can be sought in your spouse’s behavioral patterns, routine schedule and sudden changes therein.
Because most spouses have spent most of their time together from early courtship till the years following marriage, it should not be too difficult for the suspicious partner to start noticing undesirable changes over just a little matter of time.
When these changes start occurring, the suspicious partner does possess the right to look into his/her suspicions and take action if this should become necessary. Before jumping into conclusions, it is important for suspicious spouses to stay composed and collected while making keen observations, so as not to risk appearing like an overly paranoid loony bin.
It does not always equate with signs spouse is cheating if your wife or husband starts to work later hours, have more abundant meetings outside of work, or even want a change of wardrobe compared to what you’re used to him/her wearing. We must also have the presence of mind to remember that sometimes, our spouses may simply feel the need to further grow, hence the sudden, unexpected changes.
Of course, there are those cases where suspicious spouses may not be as fortunate enough to find such innocence. When the behavioral changes noticed obtain a level that is no longer comfortable or reasonable, the suspicious spouse then earns the right to search for giveaway signs spouse is cheating.
Some of the most common ways of doing this include monitoring your spouse’s conversations and dealings with the outside world. Waiting for him/her to fall asleep and then checking his/her email or cellular phone’s inbox might be a good idea, especially if you can get away with this without your spouse’s finding out.
In looking for signs spouse is cheating, we must be careful not to appear overly suspicious to our partners also, in the event that they have nothing truly malicious going on. Otherwise, after failing to collect the following signs, we might run the risk of having our spouse’s feel we were overly smothering of them and disrespecting of their privacy.
In truth, there are no specific, concrete signs to determine whether or not our spouse is cheating, and ultimately, it is up to us to listen to our gut feelings and what our hearts dictate upon us in order for us to really know and see what has to be done, if anything at all. Should we be able to unveil any ugly truths, however, we must always remember not to withstand having our value and dignity be stepped on by anyone. No matter how much we love our partner, there is no point in staying true to him/her if he/she no longer intends to stay faithful to you and your matrimonial vows to one another. At the end of the day, it is our own happiness that should be prioritized, ourselves above anyone else.
People who are bonded by marriage often do so in a hurry or due to family and societal pressures. The practice of cheating a spouse and having an extramarital affair has been there across many generations. The main reason why such affairs took place and continued to exist is because there were not many ways of confirming an affair and catching an affair and doing something about it. Though there is a suspicion, one needs to have solid proof in order to prove the other person’s infidelity.
Here are 4 signs of a cheating spouse. You can check on these signs before you take further steps to investigate an affair that your spouse possibly has:
If you are in a love relationship or marriage, you may want deeper and more satisfying intimacy with your partner.
While you and your partner to share regular sex, it may be that a level of connection you feel is missing – or perhaps you want the connection you have to take on a different stage.
Have you ever stopped to think about what motivates you love?
Two psychologists from the University of Texas at Austin research on a better understanding of why women have sex. They have even published a book with a similar title: why women have sex.
What these researchers, Cindy Meston and David Buss, discovered that women in their study the love of a wide variety of reasons. These reasons include: for fun, the stress, because the vast experience, try to boost confidence, as a duty, to please a partner and even headaches or menstrual pain.
Reading about this research and book led us to ask why not just women but men also share love with each other at different moments in their relationship.
We believe that certain patterns can effectively impede intimacy, while others may allow to deepen and is closer than ever.
There is no one “right” reason for having sex, but ….
We doubt that the psychologists who examined why women love would claim that a “right” reason for making love. And we’re going to sort of make a statement either.
Just as there were many motivations for sharing sex with a partner discovered in studies Meston and Buss, there are as many reasons why such motivations could be useful and understandable.
Every person and every relationship is different. Coming together for intimate connection can take many forms and each person can have a unique motivation to participate with that connection. In fact this can vary for the same pair, depending on the day or the moment.
We encourage all children to engage positively with motifs that enhance sex intimacy. This would require you to take a step back and do some inner exploration to see what your reasons for wanting to have sex.
For example, if you are motivated to have sex with your partner because you fear that you know him or her if you do not, we would advise you to your address any fears and uncertainties will lose.
If your partner has threatened to leave if you do not love, this is a danger sign! The assumption of intimacy, because you feel threatened or are presented with an ultimatum will only move farther apart and your partner.
Another motivation for making love might be because you feel it your duty to do. This reason came in and said the study is often cited by women.
They can not “vote”, but they feel like the wife or girlfriend, it is their duty to love. There is a feeling of “getting it on” in such cases – when sharing intimacy is a job.
We think that this distance and resentment building way to approach sex.
Have you ever had a conversation with another person and you could tell that he or she would rather go anywhere with you, but this conversation? Probably felt uncomfortable for you and you might even have taken personally.
There are certainly differences between an interview and making love, but the same dynamics can occur. If you just being intimate with your partner because you feel it your duty, he or she will likely pick-up at this point. Is it not time to see how you really feel for your own good?
If you are hesitant or resistant to any love for any reason, dealing with the underlying issues at first. Make sure your reasons for intimacy strongly linked with a desire to express your love for each other and connect.
Talk about it …
Do not think your partner understands that you want sex as a means for deepening intimacy in your relationship. Talk together about.
And if you’re not “in the mood” or you feel scared that your partner loses his or her progress if you decline, communicate that.
Sometimes the two can move closer together just by being honest and open about what you want in any one given time. You can say that this is how you feel at this moment and this could change.
It may ease your partner to know that you are going through a stressful time or have a disturbing day and if you want to connect in different ways at that time – or perhaps you need a little time for yourself.
Knowing what happened to you and what motivates you to say yes or no to sex can increase intimacy and help you two closer together.
Listen to what your partner wants and what his or her motivation when it comes to sex. This learning, continued openness, honesty and willingness to close its all part of growing intimacy and your overall satisfaction with your relationship.
A woman likes to dress for others, especially the men – which means that the course for a woman to want to be noticed in the way she dresses because it may one way for her to the man of her dreams to meet. That is the reason why she keeps in step with the utmost latest design in women’s clothing. They would not want to appear “old” in the way she chooses her clothes and the way she wears them. A drop shipper who is aware of this knows that she can profit a lot from this desire of women for clothes easily discernible.
A woman is also aware that her breasts are one of the most important point of attraction for men in particular. The male instinct to look into this area in a woman’s physique is due to the fact that he fed with milk from the breast of his mother in his earliest years. Men tend to be close to their mothers, because when they were young. Now a grown man, the breasts of a woman for him is one that gives him that special sex appeal. A woman is aware of this too, so she tries the best bras she could use her hands to emphasize her well endowed breasts, – well, the attention of men to attract.
That is the reason why a lot of profit potential in the drop ship sell bras women “with her other underwear. Current designs of bras for women are naturally made to emphasize this gift of a woman, combined with the relatively low necklines of the clothes of the women present.
To a wholesaler / manufacturer of this rather poor bra design the bra is an advantage, because he spends less for cloth materials to make them and yet their prices are such that he makes a good margin on them. The drop ship retailers are likely to rake in profits, especially if they are able to obtain their supplies of cheap bras wholesale prices. The women also are very comfortable with the new designs in bras especially when wearing them in the warmer seasons of the year. As the colder months approach, they will obviously need something like a coat, to keep them warm.
Relationships are hard work. In fact, there are many people who would argue that maintaining a relationship with another person is the most difficult thing one can endure. Human beings have been building relationships with one another since the beginning of time. Even in modern days, failed relationships can be linked to much of the undue stress and tragedy that humans face in the world.
Think about all of the people who use drugs illegally. Now, think of all the people who commit crimes. At the heart of it all, it seems like relationships play an extremely important role. There’s a saying that a lot of young couples hear when they are first married, which is that you shouldn’t go to bed mad at each other. This is true. People who get married today have over a 50% chance of getting divorced. So, now the question becomes “why?” Why is it that we can’t seem to stay together? Has the view on marriage changed? Perhaps. It seems as if a lot of young people today get married for the wrong reasons. Many people marry for financial reasons, and the the financial strain develops into the cause of the couple breaking up.
The number one reason that people fail at relationships with one another is due to a lapse or lack of communication. It takes two people to communicate effectively to the other. If one person is constantly doing all of the work in trying to convey feelings or ideas to the other person, then it is only a matter of time before problems arise. We are not mind readers. No one person is the same as the next, therefore we aren’t expected to get along. However, good relationships require good communication which requires compromise from either party involved. For example, if your husband is slovenly and leaves things out around the house, rather than reprimand him, let him know how you are feeling without nagging him to death. “Usually, you are so good about not leaving things out, honey- would you mind just picking that up and putting it away?” sounds ten times better than: “I’m sick and tired of having to clean up after you!”
When it comes to communicating well, you have to be innovative. Everyone has something that makes him or her tick. Figure out what that thing is and use it to communicate more effectively. When you are first starting out in a relationship, you need to make sure that you’re getting involved for the right reasons. Simply recognizing someone for the physical attributes that they possess is not going to be enough to sustain you through the long-term because as time goes on, people’s physical appearances tend to change. Similarly, you shouldn’t just get involved with someone based on material items or because of how much money they make because that, too, can change. Instead, look at the person’s character. How do they make you feel? How do their actions affect you? How do they treat other people? What sorts of things do others have to say about them?
Friendship is one of the greatest relationships, isn’t it? True friends do not hesitate giving their lives for their friend’s benefit. We have heard stories of great friendships since childhood. What about you? Do you think you are a good friend? Are you friendly? If you believe that you are friendly, why do you think that? Did you take any feedback from your friends about this? Or this is your impression? Sometimes we think and believe that we are very friendly, while our friends have different ideas. We change and improve only after we ask our friends. Let us become self-critic for a moment.
Quiz your friendship commitment:
How committed are to your friends? Do you nurture friendships? How many old friends can you count, or you keep breaking old friends and make new ones? Do you always try to find some fault in your friends? Or you accept them as they are and learn to make a bond. What is the bond of friendship? How many of us think about these questions that shape our friendships? Not many, but we need to do that.
We can count on a friend only if we are sure that our friend will not let us down in the moment of crisis. Without asking many questions and criticizing us, our friends will rally around us and help us fight. Can your friends expect this behavior from you? If yes, you are a person who can be counted upon. Be a good friend and get good friends in return.
Quote of the story: DON’T JUDGE AND TAKE YOUR FRIENDS HOW THEY ARE
“Perhaps love is like a resting place
A shelter from the storm
It exists to give you comfort
It is there to keep you warm
And in those times of trouble
When you are most alone
The memory of love will bring you home
Perhaps love is like a window
Perhaps an open door
It invites you to come close
It wants to show you more
And even if you lose yourself
And don‘t know what to do
The memory of love will see you through
Oh, love to some is like a cloud
To some as strong as steel
For some a way of living
For some a way to feel
And some say love is holding on
And some say letting go
And some say love is everything
And some say they don‘t know
Full of conflict, full of change
Like a fire when it‘s cold outside
Or thunder when it rains”
f misto blog by the way
by Ilinca
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